“There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate” by Cheri Huber. Posted April 9, This book reveals the origin of self-hate, how self-hate works. There Is Nothing Wrong with You. By Cheri Huber. Keep It Simple Books, ; paperback $ I’ve owned and read my share of self-help. Cheri Huber is the author of 19 books, including When You’re Falling, Dive and Time-Out for Parents. She founded the Mountain View Zen.
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Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. There Is Nothing Wrong with You: This book reveals the origin of self-hate, how self-hate works, how to identify it, and how to go beyond it. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control.
After addressing these factors, it illustrates how a meditation practice can be developed and practiced in efforts to free oneself from self-hating beliefs.
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There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
Good luck in finding, it’s tere life evolving book for sure. Lists with This Book. May 08, Emma Sea rated it it was amazing Shelves: The odds are very good that’s not going to happen If your parents could love you the way you want to be loved it would already have happened” Huber will show you how to love that little child inside you who hurts. All you have wity do is accept it.
Now I’m condemned eternally to self-hate. Only 20 days shipping! View all 17 comments. Feb 07, John added it.
Not the conditioned you, not the “you” you’ve been taught to believe you are, who you really are. And this perhaps will be the scariest, the most loving, the most rewarding thing you have ever done. You are sitting still. You are watching, watching, watching. After several days, the world sort of goes away. The system cannot maintain the same connections because it tends to start focusing on whatever is going on around you, and there’s not much going on.
So everything starts slowing down, everything starts simplifying. There’s really nothing to do except turn your attention inward. Then you begin to see what the programming is really like. You begin to hear more clearly the things you tell yourself, things you couldn’t hear until everything became very quiet.
The watching creates a spaciousness.
It’s like having a microscope. Now you can begin to see what’s really going on. Sep 29, Graham rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: This is a playful and disarming introduction to Zen Buddhism written for people like me who grew up believing that self-correction is the path to happiness.
I’m currently reading The Mandala of Being by Richard Moss which is a much more “serious” examination of the exact same topic. I’m glad I read Huber first, though, because her spacious presentations and almost childlike handwriting gave me the humility I needed to actually begin practicing.
Feb 03, Mpho3 rated it liked it Recommended to Mpho3 by: A Zen infomercial for the powers of meditation. Well, no it’s a little more than that.
The subtitle may be off-putting to people who don’t take as broad a view of the term “self-hate” as the author, a Zen Monk, does. However, in true Zen fashion, Huber is talking about Identity is maintained in struggle, in dissatisfaction, in trying to fix what’s wrong.
Suffering, egocentricity, fear, self-hate, [the] illusion A Zen infomercial for the powers of meditation. Suffering, egocentricity, fear, self-hate, [the] illusion of separateness [are the] same thing.
She says, “we are constantly looking for what is wrong, constantly creating new crises so we can rise to the occasion. To ego, that’s survival. It is very important that something be wrong so we can continue to survive it. I certainly could, and I have dabbled in meditative practices just enough to know firsthand that what she advocates is true and correct.
Therein lies the rub. On the one hand, she didn’t say anything I didn’t already know.
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On the other, that’s often the nature of self-help: It was loaned to me at a good time in my life for me hear it all yet again. It uses very simple language and unfortunately a rather unappealing “handwritten” sort of typeface accompanied by childish little drawings to get its points across. I earmarked about 15 pages out of its short page count. Like the title, the book as a whole is simple, but it’s deep, and it did what it was supposed to do: When this book was given to me as a gift I read the title and was a little offended.
This book is anti-self help because it promotes a belief that everything you need is inside you – there is nothing to fix, the self When this book was given to me as a gift I read the title and was a little offended. This book is anti-self help because it promotes a belief that everything you need is inside you – there is nothing to fix, the self needs no help. Through meditation, journaling and acknowledgement of our own goodness we can shine.
All of this just needs to be released from within, coddled from without and appreciated as much as possible. So there’s no reason to be defensive, this is a fast, multi-genre work that is worth the effort. Feb 20, David Dort rated it liked it. As with most self-help books, the value in this Zen-oriented approach is in the patience of waiting for the tidbit that is of particular value to oneself. The first thought is exclusionary “oh, this doesn’t really apply to ME.
There is nothing wrong with you
But in a deeper reading and it can be read very quickly with a more open mind, I found that it was applicable to me not only to some of the unapp As with most self-help books, the value in this Zen-oriented approach is in the patience of waiting for the tidbit that is of particular value to oneself.
But in a deeper reading and it can be read very quickly with a more open mind, I found that it was applicable to me not only to some of the unapparent self-destructive tendencies, but especially as a father, employer, brother, significant nothnig, etc. I didn’t have to be suffering rock-bottom despair to benefit from the reminder that compassion is both the cause and the result of a satisfying life. Never have I encountered a self-help book with such simplicity yet such profound wisdom.
Everyday issues that nothnig has in degrees this book has shed light on such things as holding ourselves to a standard that leads to pain and guilt and pressure and self hate. We have this innate concept that we aren’t good enough or have to do our to-do list and do it right or We hold on to this identity that we have to do or be or act certain ways or something will happen, Never have I encountered a self-help book with such simplicity yet such profound wisdom.
We hold on to this identity that we have to do or be or act certain hubdr or something will happen, someone will think less of us or we won’t have an identity of something that we’ve held on onto.
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And it’s not preachy, it looks like it’s hand written so we slow down to read it and it’s bare bones wisdom to be read in one fell swoop or digested in small bites. Jan 29, Susan rated it really liked it Shelves: Perhaps the most simple self-book I have wromg read, though, it’s a book to read ghere and take notes. Fashion photographer, Sue Bryce recommended this book and I am glad I listened to her!
I highly recommend this book to anyone. This book can help you get out of your comfort zone and stop sabotaging yourself. You just need to be willing t Perhaps the most simple self-book I have ever read, though, it’s a book to read again and take notes. You just need to be willing to make a change for nithing.
May 07, Coyora Dokusho rated it it was amazing. Jun 19, Tricia Culp rated it really liked it Shelves: This is a lovely, enlightening little book. It helped me see new ways to release control and trust God and accept his forgiveness and grace. Dec 19, Haley June Luvison rated it really liked it. Jun 24, Alex Laughlin rated it it was amazing. Everybody should read this. Jan 03, Unigami rated it it was amazing Shelves: This book joins “Your Erroneous Zones” and wity Untethered Soul” as my top three self-improvement hkber, although after reading this book I now understand self-improvement is a trap.
Huber writes, “Self-hate uses self-improvement as self-maintenance.